So how does it feel to turn 30? Well… although people have said that 30 is the new 20, I honestly feel old. All morning long, Ron said I needed to embrace this age (that’s coming from a guy who is 3 years older than I am). And so with that thought in mind, I went down memory lane and began to realize… maybe turning 30 isn’t so bad at all…
I started off the last decade being somewhat bitter… heartbroken… and yes, a bit naive. As I inched towards turning 21, I had to get the rebellious stage out of my system. Quite frankly, I had the time of my life with my girlfriends (who are still some of my bestest friends to this day!) bar hoppin’ and enjoying the night scene. As soon as I became an RN at 21, I moved out of my parents’ home and started a new chapter in Orange County. At 23, my then boyfriend (now husband) and I bought a starter condo. We graduated with our BSNs together at 24 and finally got married that following October. We traveled, traveled, traveled! And we even landed 15 minutes of fame by dancing our wedding dance on the Rachael Ray Show in New York after being discovered on YouTube! Along the way, I found a niche for photography and honed in on newborns & children specifically. My RN background has always been in the NICU, so… go figure! Finished up my MSN at UCLA and popped out my 1st baby just five months later at the age of 27. Popped out my 2nd baby at 28 and finally purchased our “forever home” at 29. In welcoming new life, I also lost all my grandparents this past decade. And it broke my heart to know that there was nothing I could do to freeze time. A Republican by association, I had a change of heart and was actually grateful to have Obama in office the last 8 years. Never thought I’d see the day where I’d be so proud to be an American because of all the positive change that has happened… especially in terms of marriage equality. It’s too bad Presidents can’t stay in office for more than two terms.
The road wasn’t always easy, but it was fun. I mean, REAL fun. Nothing was ever handed to us on a platter and it always came with blood, sweat, and tears. I crossed off many “To-Do’s” on my bucket list, one of which included running a half marathon! (If you know me, you know, I don’t run!)… But my proudest achievement that I can offer to the world at this point… Are my most treasured “gems” and the difference that I know my kids will one day make. The next decade we’ll be on “cruise control” as we focus less on achieving the American dream and focus more on living the American dream.
With every piece of my heart, I thank every single person who has crossed my path. I do believe every person, every circumstance, and every experience happens for a reason and so thank you all for being a part of my life.
On my 29th birthday blog post, I posted this article from a 1997 issue of Glamour magazine. Although some stuff is a bit outdated (cause who carries a suitcase nowadays??) , I do believe that there is some value there for any 30 year old female! As for me… I would say that for most of the items– Been there, done thatAnd I’m more than ready to see why they say life begins at 30.
By 30, you should have …
1. One old boyfriend you can imagine going back to and one who reminds you of how far you’ve come.
2. A decent piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in your family.
3. Something perfect to wear if the employer or man of your dreams wants to see you in an hour.
4. A purse, a suitcase, and an umbrella you’re not ashamed to be seen carrying.
5. A youth you’re content to move beyond.
6. A past juicy enough that you’re looking forward to retelling it in your old age.
7. The realization that you are actually going to have an old age — and some money set aside to help fund it.
8. An email address, a voice mailbox, and a bank account — all of which nobody has access to but you.
9. A résumé that is not even the slightest bit padded.
10. One friend who always makes you laugh and one who lets you cry.
11. A set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill, and a black lace bra.
12. Something ridiculously expensive that you bought for yourself, just because you deserve it.
13. The belief that you deserve it.
14. A skin-care regimen, an exercise routine, and a plan for dealing with those few other facets of life that don’t get better after 30.
15. A solid start on a satisfying career, a satisfying relationship, and all those other facets of life that do get better.
By 30, you should know …
1. How to fall in love without losing yourself.
2. How you feel about having kids.
3. How to quit a job, break up with a man, and confront a friend without ruining the friendship.
4. When to try harder and when to walk away.
5. How to kiss in a way that communicates perfectly what you would and wouldn’t like to happen next.
6. The names of the secretary of state, your great-grandmothers, and the best tailor in town.
7. How to live alone, even if you don’t like to.
8. Where to go — be it your best friend’s kitchen table or a yoga mat — when your soul needs soothing.
9. That you can’t change the length of your legs, the width of your hips, or the nature of your parents.
10. That your childhood may not have been perfect, but it’s over.
11. What you would and wouldn’t do for money or love.
12. That nobody gets away with smoking, drinking, doing drugs, or not flossing for very long.
13. Who you can trust, who you can’t, and why you shouldn’t take it personally.
14. Not to apologize for something that isn’t your fault.
15. Why they say life begins at 30
Taken with the iPhone 5 on Mother’s Day 2013. A few months old, but I like this picture, and this is where we were today!